Thursday, April 26, 2012

Labels or Love?

I don't know which I enjoy doing more, ruffling the feathers of my non-Christian friends by talking about Jesus or ruffling the feathers of my Christian friends by talking about "the Universe." Maybe it's the devil in me, but I feel the need to do both from time to time. Or, maybe it's just because I hate to see labels, which we really intend to bring us closer to Love, in fact create separation between us and other people, and therefore separation between us and the Divine.

We all want the same things. We want to be healthy, whole, and prosperous. We want to feel loved. We want to know love and be love. We want ourselves and our loved ones to be safe and healthy and happy. We want to be appreciated and accepted for who we are. We want to be respected for our beliefs and feel safe in sharing those beliefs.

All of our beliefs, all of our opinions, all of the decisions we make and actions we take, are intended to support our happiness and the love and well-being that we are seeking. We are all entitled to pursue this happiness.

For me the problem lies in identifying with a group and wearing the identity of my group like a suit, so I can distinguish myself from other people in different groups, who wear different suits. Identifying myself with a certain group, that has certain beliefs, often evolves into feeling as though I have to defend those beliefs, defend myself, and defend my group. Granted there's a certain comfort in being part of a group, a security and stability, an innate human desire to be part of a tribe. I don't think there's anything wrong with that. But there's something about a label that inherently separates us, distinguishes us from those "other people" who don't share that label. It automatically says, "I am this and if you are not, then you must be that."

Too many wars, too much human suffering has happened as a result of this, "I am this, you are that. I am right so you have to be wrong," kind of thinking. And that's what doesn't feel good to me.

When I am quiet, still, and with myself and that which I call God, my Higher Self, or whatever name I give the Divine, I'm filled to the brim with loving patience, peace, and a sense of goodness, safety, and well-being. In that place, there is no room for mental chatter, so there's certainly no room for beliefs, opinions, or thoughts about what anybody else is doing or should be doing. I never hear the voice of love say, "Don't hang out with those people," or "Those people are wrong, don't talk to them," or "I think you should disagree with them," or "They are wrong for not believing the way that you do."

Ridiculous! All I have ever heard from the voice of spirit is, "You are loved. I love you. You are perfect. You are whole. You are complete. Forgive." I am suspicious of any voice claiming to represent the God of love if it sounds anything less than loving. That just doesn't make good sense.

I don't think love, God, the Divine, Jehovah, Allah, Jesus Christ, our Higher Selves, the Virgin Mary, or the goddess Quan Yin is, was, or ever will be about separation. That's all I'm saying.

Now having said all that, I hope I haven't pissed anybody off too bad . . . . . . (tee-hee-hee).


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  1. I'm with you, Shelly, in finding balance and common ground among my friends and family and well, just in life. We are lucky to have friends and acquaintances who range from devout Christians (some fundamentalistic in belief) to athiests. They all possess that gift of tolerance, however, and know how to celebrate their love for us without making judgement calls outwardly on our way of life. I am a cosmologist at heart...if that's a label then so be it....kind of hard to define it, though. I wouldn't have it any other way. Davis and I are both Reiki Masters so that puts us in a place where we just have to admit that there is a Universal energetic power that provides balance and correction in the human energy field.....pure healing and requires no form of spiritual or religious belief. You cannot understand true healing until you have visited the dark side within, however, and taken steps to transform and turn around that energy to something positive, forgiving, and loving. It takes your whole life to make the journey, however, but it can be fun if you surround yourself with a little flock of a 'birds of a feather'and keep yourself open and tolerant to others. Nothing wrong with having a little support group. And yes to your use of the word "Universe"....we are a part of the Universe. "We are star dust, we are golden...billion year old carbon and we've got to get ourselves back to the garden." (quote from "Woodstock" Joni Mitchell).

    1. Thank you for your comments, Kathleen. I've come to think more and more that our beliefs, our values, in fact anything in our heads that we theorize about are just stories, unique and particular to us. What we call truth, the real truth, is only known or felt as an experience, and it tends to get a little lost we we try to put language to it. But as humans, we will always try. And isn't it nice/fun to hang out with those whose "stories" resonate with our own. You are blessed to have such a community. Thanks again for sharing. Hope to see you soon!


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